Another One Bites the Dust

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Well, the man I was seeing, the one from Michigan, is no longer. Things just couldn’t work out. He bailed twice on coming to visit me, with possibly legitimate reasons, but that wasn’t the reason I ended it. I just could not continue the long distance thing. I am so beyond stressed right now, to the point where it is making me physically ill, and the last thing I need is to be worrying about someone I’ve never met. I need to take care of myself and the boys.

He was a very nice man, and perhaps if we’d met in person there would have been a better chance. I just don’t have the emotional and mental strength to continue putting energy and effort into something I cannot see, touch, feel, etc. I tried to explain this to him, because he had told me he loved me, but he didn’t understand. No, instead he accused me of getting back with Poke and/or my “fuck buddy”. I didn’t want to hurt him, because I had hoped that we could have a future, but when he said that I realized something: His major insecurities would have ruined the relationship eventually, and I would have found myself in a relationship with someone just like Poke. That’s the last thing I want, especially now. I don’t ever want to be with someone who blames me for everything, who constantly questions my lifestyle or choices, someone who demands that I prop them up while they pull me down. It will not happen again.

Hashtag Adulting

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fb_img_1476060371307Remember being little and thinking, “Gee, I cannot wait to be an adult!”? Well I wish I could go back to my younger self and say “Slow down! Enjoy every moment of this!” because I, for one, hate being an adult.

img_20161011_172529I got a letter on September 14th stating that in 60-90 days, our home would be taken from Poke’s name to the bank’s name, and “sometime after that”, it would go from the bank to HUD, and then there would be a sheriff’s auction. This past Monday, October 10th, I got no less than five advertisements from companies trying to “save the house” saying that the sheriff sale is on November 18th. What?! So I looked it up online, called the sheriff, and it’s true. Apparently they completely skipped all the steps in between, because it hasn’t been 60-90 days and the title is still in Poke’s name. I’m very confused.

20160920_092238However, though I am confused, I don’t care. It is time to gtfo of this house. This was supposed to be our forever home, or our until the kids outgrow it home, and now that we’re not a family anymore, it feels like a farce. Things are breaking and I don’t want to fix them, partially because I am still kind of resentful about what Poke did to us. This is his house, these are his children, I am his wife, yet he abandoned all of us to drink, do drugs, bang all kinds of random chicks, and so forth. All that while I held shit together here, keeping the children alive and keeping things running smoothly. Well, I’m done trying to keep up with a life that was meant for four, and I’m ready to move on to a life meant for three, just me and the boys.

528876_10151052090649801_1912186749_nWe are going to move in with my best friend, Flower, who has a pretty big house, and no children or husband or anyone else living with her. When I moved out of my parents’ house a couple weeks after graduating high school, I moved in with her. It’s almost like I’ve come full circle. I’m very excited to live with my bff, because she is the only person in my whole life, including my parents, that I could live with peacefully without issues. We have very similar quirks, and it works out. Granted, I have children now, but they’ll learn quickly how to live with their Aunt Flower. They tolerate living here well enough! The good thing about moving in with Flower is that we’ll actually be closer to my parents by about five miles, and I don’t have to completely relocate to a new city or state.

20160926_220340I have been seeing a man who lives in Michigan (I know, I know, bad OSU fan! But he’s not from there, he just lives there). We met online, of course, and we have been together for just over a month, officially. He has two kids, he has a good job, and he is very sweet and loving. This is not my first long distance relationship, but it is my closest, as he is only four hours away. Unfortunately, it has been hard for us to meet because of our conflicting schedules, car troubles, etc. Hopefully we can meet very soon, because if he is as good in person as he is on the phone, online, and so on, then I might have found someone I can actually be with long term. Overall, I am content with how my life is going these days. I have not been content in awhile, and it makes me happy.

Deposit to the Karma Bank

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wpid-collage_20151018193431029.jpgWhen I am feeling poorly, emotionally and spiritually, I will generally head back to church. Unfortunately, Catholicism and small children, especially wild maniacs like JI, do not mix. So, because I have a teeny tiny bit of disposable income, I decided to make up these packs for the homeless/needy. I have been trying to help as many people as I can lately, and so far I have bought groceries for a neighbor, bought JI the special foods he wants (instead of constantly having to say “no”), and have donated a bunch of stuff to the food pantry and women’s shelter. I feel that every good deed I do is a deposit to the Karma Bank, and will help me feel better because I see other people feeling better.

To make a homeless pack is very easy; collect non perishable food, drinks, toiletries, and anything else you can think a person might need (tampons/pads for women, 1-2 diapers, a $5 gift card to fast food, etc.). I put in 2 napkins, a spoon, pop, cereal, a juice box, crackers, floss, shampoo/conditioner, a fruit cup, bottled water, and a drink mix packet. Everything went into a gallon sized zippered freezer bag (they are stronger than regular storage bags), and wrote a sentiment on the label – “You matter to someone. Have a good day! :)”

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I loaded all the bags, eight total, into a large tote to keep in the car so that whenever I see someone on the ramp or the road, I can hand them a bag. I made them over the weekend, and handed out my first pack today. The man said “God bless you” without even looking at it… but hopefully, when he did, he was pleasantly surprised.

Bonus Mother’s Day Giveaway!

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If you didn’t win A Small Village’s
“Everyday is Mother’s Day” giveaway, you are in luck!
Enter the “Forever Mother’s Day” giveaways!

Brieftons Spiralizer Giveaway A Small Village

The Everyday is Mother’s Day Gift Guide and Giveaways will continue to run through the end of May on A Small Village. There are 3 more bonus prizes which means 3 more winners!

The first bonus prize is a Briefton’s Next-Gen Spiralizer from 

May 11 – 25th

The second bonus prize is a set of Bobee’s Decorative Paper Lanterns from 

May 14 – 28

The third bonus prize is Artwork from Fulcrum Gallery from

May 17 – 31st

Spiral Soup Topping

Check out  A Small Village for a tasty soup topping made with the spiralizer.

On May 26th one winner will be chosen at random to win a Next-Gen Spiralizer.

The Giveaway is open to US Resident’s 18+ only. 

Don’t forget to enter the other two bonus giveaways!

Click HERE to join A Small Village Giveaway Group.

Enter Here!

 

Disclosure: Tales of a Play-Date Dropout is not responsible for prize fulfillment or shipping. A Small Village is hosting this giveaway, contact asmallvillageof8@gmail.com with any questions. This giveaway is not associated with any social media networks.

Bonus Mother’s Day Giveaway!

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If you didn’t win A Small Village’s
“Everyday is Mother’s Day” giveaway, you are in luck!
Enter the “Forever Mother’s Day” giveaways!

Brieftons Spiralizer Giveaway A Small Village

The Everyday is Mother’s Day Gift Guide and Giveaways will continue to run through the end of May on A Small Village. There are 3 more bonus prizes which means 3 more winners!

The first bonus prize is a Briefton’s Next-Gen Spiralizer from 

May 11 – 25th

The second bonus prize is a set of Bobee’s Decorative Paper Lanterns from 

May 14 – 28

The third bonus prize is Artwork from Fulcrum Gallery from

May 17 – 31st

Spiral Soup Topping

Check out  A Small Village for a tasty soup topping made with the spiralizer.

On May 26th one winner will be chosen at random to win a Next-Gen Spiralizer.

The Giveaway is open to US Resident’s 18+ only. 

Don’t forget to enter the other two bonus giveaways!

Click HERE to join A Small Village Giveaway Group.

Enter Here!

 

Disclosure: Tales of a Play-Date Dropout is not responsible for prize fulfillment or shipping. A Small Village is hosting this giveaway, contact asmallvillageof8@gmail.com with any questions. This giveaway is not associated with any social media networks.

Dreft #Amazinghood Giveaway

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dreft #Amazinghood Giveaway

Hosted by: Savory Savings 
Co-hosted by: Michigan Saving & More and Parenting Healthy

Sponsored by: dreft
Co-sponsored by: Little Me

dreft #Amazinghood Giveaway May 1 -15 #DDDivas #sponsored

When we are first handed our little ones no matter at what stage they come into our lives, I think every mom thinks about how to protect that tiny peanut!  One great way to do that is with gentle and safe laundry products like dreft!  Right now, you can join dreft on their #Amazinghood journey as we talk about the stages of baby!  And right now, Krista over at Savory Savings is having fun cleaning messes (that's fun, right??) using Dreft and is excited to host this giveaway with fabulous prizes for you!

Before we get to the giveaway, be sure to mark your calendar and be sure to join dreft on Tuesday, May 5th, from 9-10 PM EST as we talk with Kelly about her life as a mom and how she plans to celebrate her very first Mother's Day!  RSVP here!

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